Fiction, at least the good variety, is never too far away from real life. One such tale is the saga of the alien race called Saiyans, told in Dragonball Z (written by Akira Toriyama).
The Saiyans have a peculiar quality of becoming stronger after getting battered.
We are all Saiyans, but are generally not conscious of it.
We discover it through hardship. As we crawl out of the debris, and emerge from the ruins, there is some vital character-building.
The setback
These days, there are two issues pestering me. I can’t go back to work, and can’t find a partner. I am stuck at a juncture in life where both things need to be sorted, but neither is likely to be resolved in the near future.
Hence when I hear or read about someone’s engagement or marriage, I get anxious. It hits me like a brick. I continuously think about it and am not able to shake it out of my system. I am dazed and numbed by the ordeal, which has a propensity to drag on for days and weeks.
I try to prepare myself against responding to such information, but can’t help being affected by it. The engagements of tom and joe had an upsetting effect on me. I was happy for them, but at the same time was reminded of the snags in my life. Another matter that tormented me lately was harry’s aloofness to me; as I expected him to care.
Job related jibber-jabber also makes me uneasy. When peter speaks to me about his job and his projects, it makes me long for a similar busy and productive schedule.
Of course I miss it.
When one is not able to live a normal life, doing regular but necessary tasks, there will obviously be some dismay. Being unable to follow one’s hopes and dreams causes intense consternation.
The Fear of Mission Out is huge.
The recovery
The sting leaves a severe burn; but mollifies in due time. The system gets used to the new reality.
The tear, the scarring, and the agony are followed by recovery, maturity and a new-found understanding.
Adjusting to the new developments takes time. But the other option of avoiding the reality and being oblivious to the incidents in your life are sure to catch up later.
In a few days I am good to go. I came out of the quandary infinitely stronger.
I have realised that more the pain, better the recovery is, and steeper the learning curve.
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